Woman Leaves Husband After He Wins Millions of Dollars, Claiming His Newfound Wealth Made Him Pretentious

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    r/AITAH 15 hr. ago Cold-Tradition-1290 AITAH for leaving my husband after he won a large sum of money?
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    Throw away for privacy. My (32 F) husband (36 M) was in a work accident several years ago and he won a court case in which he was awarded a sum in the multi millions. My husband and I live in the US and have been struggling for years especially since his
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    accident since he hasn't been able to work a job in his specialty since. He's mainly been working minimum to low wage jobs because his degree and trade experience are in an industry his body can no longer work in. I make pretty good money but
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    again, we live in the economical hellscape that is America. In the last year since the settlement my husband has become the most smug, stuck up, pretentious man I've ever known and I'm sick of it. Our
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    friends and family aren't good enough for us anymore because now we have money. Our home and cars and clothes weren't good enough for us and anyone with a small house, paid off car, or mall clothes was "sad and depressing". He judges people
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    HARD and he's not quiet about it. He's mean and people we interact with. to the Of course we got nicer things when he received his money, but he was adamant on luxury things and to him anyone who doesn't
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    live in a mansion on the hills with a Lamborghini and Gucci shoes is embarrassing. He gets upset with me for not wanting to spend crazy amounts of money. Why would I buy a $2,000 pair of shoes when I can get a pair just like it for $60?? It feels like giving
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    a child, with no concept of money, $20 and setting them free in a dollar tree. He's bought me a ton of expensive clothes and jewelry, new electronics. He pays for high end spa days and even bought
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    me a new car. I feel like an ungrateful for saying this but I don't really like the gifts. Nothing is my style or taste, he's buying it just because it's expensive. My husband harasses me daily to quit the job I love and says that I
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    make us look bad by working and "making us still look poor”. He gets upset if I want to go to the same chain restaurants we've always liked (buffalo wild wings, jack in the box, etc) instead of 5 star Michelin steak houses and sushi places "because we can afford it now".
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    He's even gone as far as trying to push me towards plastic surgery "because we can afford it so why not". He's suggested a job, bbl, lip filler, and at one point that surgery where they remove the bottom rib. I feel like he's
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    starting to think I don't look good enough for him and our new lifestyle. We've gone to couples therapy, his attitude isn't improving, it's even gotten worse, and I'm miserable. This is not the man I
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    married. I don't want to have kids and raise a family with him. But I'm afraid that if I leave everyone will cry gold digger. We married when we were young and broke and didn't consider a prenup because we had nothing (dumb I know but we were kids). AITAH?
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    Thin_Data_9502 . • 14h ago • No. Leave him. He's going to blow through that money soon enough. Keep all the gifts and sell them once you are divorced. He's told you to get plastic surgery. If you don't he will just cheat because he knows gold diggers will be after him.
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    K_A_irony . • 15h ago Edited 15h ago • NTA. I would also be VERY afraid of that level of spending in addition to him being an insufferable • . | mean "multi-millions" sounds like a lot but is it 4 million or 20 million. In general you can live off investments (assuming the money is invested) BUT the rule of thumb is 4% of the amount if you want the money to last (and you NEED it to last, you guys are YOUNG). Lets say it is 5 million
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    dollars. That means the 4% amount BEFORE TAXES is 200K a year income. This equals roughly 141K a year after taxes. That is NOT gucci and lambo money. You know most lottery winners are broke after a couple of years and it sounds like your husband is on the same path. I would make sure you are saying in counseling that you are NOT enjoying things just because they are expensive. You liked your old life
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    minus the financial stress. You liked him when he enjoyed the simpler things and that you want him to stop acting like an entitled Also I suggest you quietly go talk to a lawyer and find out what the financial split would be. Depending on where you live, you might not be entitled to any of it or you might be entitled to a reasonable split. If you are entitled to a reasonable share, you can always go for less and settle for say 1 to 2 million. That would be enough to
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    have a GREAT retirement if you invested it and kept working for 15 or 20 years.
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    beet3637 • 15h ago. His spending seems out of control. Before long he'll be back to being a pauper again. Yes, do leave him now before a kid forces you to stay in for a long time.
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    Newest Account2023 • 13h ago Settlements in the multimillions are still not enough to afford Lamborghinis. If this is real he'll be broke within 10 years
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    G205 KB MER STA My husband harasses me daily to quit the job I love and says that I make us look bad by working and "making us still look poor". He gets upset if I want to go to the same chain restaurants we've always liked (buffalo wild wings, jack in the box, etc) instead of 5 star Michelin steak houses and sushi places "because we can afford it now".

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